A Beckon for Our Children

One of my greatest fears initially in going public about the abuse from my life was that for much of my life my abuse was not taken seriously by anyone I shared it with; and, there was that hesitation that the public would view it much the same way. Abuse changes us and even though it may not be taken seriously or acknowledged for the harm it causes, I decided to be one joining the movement in disclosing the reality of my abuse and did so in an attempt to help any who are like me. Regardless of the reaction from the public, I will speak my truth to help others who suffer in silence and will strive to spread a message of awareness, hope, love, and healing. 

Recently in the news there have been attempts by many abused survivors to share the truth of what they experienced as children; and, as is so common in our society, the victim is undermined and questioned. I have been sickened the more that I learn about the reality of so many high ranking leaders in the world and their evil acts on children.

I do not understand how so many can stay silent over this! This is about the collusion of very evil men, and sadly some evil women, who use their power and money to hide their evil, gross, and soul destroying acts on children. What is wrong with people today that they can so easily turn a blind eye to the sad reality of our world? Why do we not believe the victim? Why do we minimize the seriousness of this type of abuse? Sexual abuse forever changes a person, wounding them on a soul level, requiring significant help in recovering from the trauma they experienced - and to act as if it does not, is to turn a blind eye.

I believe that those who have not suffered from abuse truly do not understand the ramifications on the abused individual's life. Most of the adults in my family - nuclear and extended - treat the abuse in my family as if it is not any big deal. I reached out to one of my aunts about the abuse before I went public, asking her if she was aware of what happened within my home when I was a child and instead of seeing the abuse for what it was - my FATHER sexually abusing me - she compared what happened to me to her own mother’s experience, as she had been harmed by her brother when she was young. She stated that her mother had been able to forgive her brother and that they had a great relationship, insinuating that I needed to forgive, move on, and allow my father back into my life.

What so many do not realize, because it is one of the great secrets around sexual abuse, is that children who act out sexually with another child - which does happen - have nearly 100% been abused by another and if you trace the dots of the abuse you will eventually find the adult who started it all.* There is a significant difference between an adult causing harm and that of a child, though both cause serious harm, and all involved need help with counselling to overcome the effects. I think it is important to share that most children who act out sexually as a child do not act out later in life as adults - as in abusing children - they are not pedofiles. This aspect of abuse needs more attention as there are many who do not understand that the actions of a child on another child is nearly always connected to what happened to them by being abused and is another layer to their already being a victim - for they have now caused harm to another. If you ever discover a child acting out sexually on another child, it is vital to start tracing the dots to find the adult who is the true predator and seek professional help for the children involved. Helping them early will help them overcome the effects of the abuse and give them the opportunity to work towards healing earlier, rather than later in life. Please help the child and stop blaming them - realize that this is a symptom of their abuse.

As one who has walked through the fires of hell because of the coverups within the Mormon church and my own family over my own abuse - for those who speak of following Jesus, I want to gently remind you that Jesus was all about protecting the abused, the down trodden, and the weak, the weakest of all being our children. Sadly, our churches so often are places where these dark secrets are kept hidden and as followers, it is vital that we start speaking up against this, for this is NOT the way of one who follows Christ or God. Please stop protecting the predators.

Me at 5 years old. I was one who was abused by my father.

If we are to improve our world, we must come to see the reality of our situation for what it is and do more to protect the child. We must stop pretending that the world is not what it is and voice our support for children and victims. Please stop ignoring the great plague in our world, the sickness of pedofilia. 

When children are protected, nurtured, and loved, our future is guaranteed to be bright, happy, and healthy. 

Please take a stand and join with others who are working to expose the dark secrets within governments, churches, and families.  If you are one that has been harmed, start speaking your truth. Together we can and will make a difference! 

Let us all work to protect the children of this world.

With so much love and care,

The Modern Day Pioneer™

*Sometimes children who are being abused act out the abuse on other children or even pets.. This may have been sexually arrousing or erotic for [the child], and [the child] may carry feelings of guilt and shame. Facing each of these experiences is part of the healing and self-forgiveness required to free yourself. (Haines, S. (2010). Healing sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma. pg. 8)